The less you wish they'd change... the more peace you'll experience.

The less you ask them to change, the more freedom you'll feel.

Wait...isn't this a little backward?

But here's what I've discovered after 30+ years as a licensed therapist and coach:

The wishing is the problem.

When you're lying awake at 3am wishing your mother would finally approve of you...

When you're replaying that conversation for the hundredth time, wishing your sibling would acknowledge what they did...

When you're scrolling their social media, wishing your ex would see their part...

When you're dreading the next family gathering, wishing your father would stop being critical...

You're living in a mental prison. And they're not even in the cell with you.

Here's the Truth No One Tells You:

It's not your mother, your ex, your sibling, your boss, or your friend causing your suffering.

It's the thoughts you're believing about them.

"She should respect me."
"He ruined my life."
"They owe me an apology."
"I'll never get over this."
"If only they would change, I could finally be happy."

Every time you believe one of these thoughts, you hand your peace over to someone who may be thousands of miles away—or who might not even be alive anymore.

And as long as your peace depends on THEM changing?

You'll stay stuck in the endless loop of frustration, resentment, and pain.

But What If There Was Another Way?

What if you could experience complete relief from that painful relationship without:

❌ Them ever changing
❌ Them apologizing or acknowledging what happened
❌ Having "the conversation" you've been dreading
❌ Setting better boundaries
❌ Years of therapy unpacking your childhood
❌ Forcing yourself to forgive
❌ Cutting them out of your life

What if the key to your freedom has been inside you all along?

Introducing: Inquiry

Inquiry is the practice of questioning your stressful thoughts—not to make them go away, not to talk yourself out of them, but to genuinely investigate whether they're actually true.

When you take a thought like "She should respect me" and question it deeply, something shifts. The grip loosens. The story loses its power. You discover that what you were absolutely certain was true... might not be.

And in that discovery lies your freedom.

This isn't positive thinking. You're not trying to convince yourself everything is fine.

This isn't spiritual bypassing. You're not pretending you weren't hurt.

This is radical honesty about what's actually causing your pain—and it's not what you think.

Who This Is For:

This workshop is for you if there's one person who occupies way too much mental real estate:

• Your mother who never seems satisfied, or your father who was emotionally absent
• Your sibling who always has to be right, plays the victim, or betrayed your trust
• The divorce that shattered your sense of safety
• Your adult child who won't take your advice, or your parent who won't stop giving it
• A colleague who undermines you, or a boss who doesn't value you
• The friend whose betrayal you can't forget
• The partner who doesn't love you the way you need
• Someone who ghosted you without explanation, leaving you with all the questions
• The ex you can't stop thinking about
• Anyone whose presence in your thoughts creates stress, anger, resentment, or pain

You don't need to stay stuck in this. And you don't need them to change for you to be free.

What We'll Do Together on February 18th

This is a live, experiential 3-hour workshop where you'll:

1. Identify Your Stressful Thoughts

Choose one relationship you want to understand better and one specific situation that caused pain. I'll guide you through writing what's called a "Judge Your Neighbor worksheet"—a simple process for getting your unedited, raw thoughts onto paper.

(If you're not sure where to start, I'll share what my teacher Byron Katie often says: "Go back to father, mother, sister, brother"—those core, original relationships where our patterns were formed.)

2. Question What You Think You Know

Together, we'll take one of your beliefs through a four-question inquiry process:

• Is it true?
• Can you absolutely know it's true?
• How do you react when you believe that thought?
• Who would you be without it?

These aren't rhetorical questions. They're genuine invitations to investigate your own mind.

3. Discover the Turnarounds

This is where the magic happens. You'll find "turnarounds"—opposite or different ways of looking at the situation that are often MORE true than your original thought. This isn't about making the other person right and you wrong. It's about discovering what's actually been true all along.

4. Experience Relief and Know Your Next Steps

By the end of our time together, you'll feel a palpable shift—relief, clarity, understanding. And you'll know exactly how to continue this practice on your own.

What Makes This Different:

You don't need to know anything about inquiry or self-development to benefit from this workshop. I'll guide you through every single step.

This is experiential, not theoretical. You'll actually DO the inquiry on your own real situation. Everyone participates by answering the questions I facilitate. You're welcome to keep your camera off and listen if that feels safer.

All you need is pen, paper, and an open mind. I'll provide everything else.

You'll have the replay if you can't attend live or want to experience the inquiry again.

What Others Have Discovered:

"I got so much more out of it than I expected and really feel like it has helped me to move on. It has given me the basic tools that I need to question my own thinking and assumptions and to let stuff go in a way that really does serve my highest potential. It also helped me to act on certain things that I did not have the courage to before. Sometimes doing this is harder than staying in that place of resentment and inaction. I guess the pain is sometimes inevitable but we have to try and reduce the suffering which IS optional. Thank you for all the pearls of wisdom and for showing me another way. I am very grateful to you and all the amazing people in the workshop who dared to question and share so openly."

"I love how calming you are Grace. Your ability to translate what we were thinking and rephrase concepts to be more accurate was very helpful and allowed me to dive into the work in an accurate way. I now know that is one thing that has held me back (the thoughts I wrote down were too broad). Thank you, thank you."

Workshop Details:

When: Wednesday, February 18th, 2026
Time: 9:00am - 12:00pm Pacific Time/ Noon-3pm Eastern/ 6-9pm Berlin
Where: Live on Zoom (link provided upon registration)
Recording: Yes - full replay available
Investment: Recommended sustainable tuition is $65, with reduced rates available for those in need (sliding scale begins at $37)

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A Note About This Work:

I offer these workshops once a month because I've seen what becomes possible when people question their stressful thoughts about relationships.

The person who's been "the problem" in your life? They might become your greatest teacher.

The relationship that's been hell? It might become your portal to heaven.

Not because they change. Not because they finally see the light or apologize or do what you've been wishing they'd do.

But because you discover that your freedom never depended on them in the first place.

This is an invitation to question what you think you know about that one person—and to discover the peace that's been waiting all along.

With love,
Grace Bell
Certified Mental Health Therapist & Eating Peace Coach

Investment

Sliding Scale: $37 - $65+
Recommended Tuition: $65

Choose the amount that's right for you. If the recommended tuition creates financial stress, please pay less. If you can comfortably pay more, your contribution helps make this work accessible to others.

Details

When: Tuesday, February 18, 2026
Time: 9:00am - 12:00pm Pacific Time
Where: Online via Zoom (link provided upon registration)
Recording: Available if you can't attend live

Questions or need support with registration? Write grace@workwithgrace.com

Open to Everyone

No prior experience with The Work required. Come with an open heart and willingness to question your thoughts.

Can't attend live? No problem! You'll receive access to the full replay for 30 days, so you can experience this transformation on your own timeline.

Meditate on all four questions, then find turnarounds, and examples for each turnaround. This process takes focus, an open heart, and stillness. Your examples for each turnaround will reveal new realities to you. Allow them, as they are shown to you, to settle into your awareness, realities you may not have been aware of, they will wake you up one by one and enlighten you, show you a much kinder world. With all the love in my heart, I invite you to meet that world that is living right here, right now, right under your nose, just four questions (and your answers to them) away.." ~ Byron Katie