EATING PEACE BASICS 101

An 8 week online course to identify and question the root cause of off-balance eating: our thoughts and beliefs about food, feelings, body image and eating.

ENROLL NOW: June 24-Aug 12, 2020 Wednesdays 9:00-10:30am Pacific Time ($395 US)

Uncover your Eating Peace birthright: 8 core stories to question to regain your freedom

No matter how far down the road of craziness you've gone with food, eating and body image--and no matter how long you've been on that road--eating peace is possible for you.  This BASICS 8 week course will give you the foundational principles to see the stressful stories, learn to use The Work of Byron Katie, and other exercises to change your eating from the inside out.

Eating Can Be Joyful and No Big Deal

The Eating Peace Basics 101 Course introduces 8 foundational principles and stories to question to break apart the eating battles that bind you when it comes to food.  

With looming thoughts in our minds and hearts about eating, foods, diets, weight management, food dangers, bodies, perfection vs mediocrity…..as we try to navigate our lives, we become anxious, suspicious, defensive, fearful, angry, or lonely.  

And then? We eat even more.  

For me, my angst with eating began around age 14, although I felt stressed about weight and awareness of the fear of fatness at age 8.  

My trouble with food….just happened to coincide with a driving passion….for thinness. And in direct opposition, a driving passion that seemed almost beyond my control….for eating!  

Thus began a battle with food, eating and my body for many years. Never peaceful, never enough, often too much, never just right.  

My stressful thinking went like this, and you might relate:  

*My body is disgusting *I can’t succeed in eating the right amount *I feel more attractive if I’m thin, I hate being fat *I feel empty, and I can fill the hole with food *I can’t handle hunger, fullness, feelings, being seen by others, figuring this out *eating normally is impossible *cravings are maddening and insanely hard to control *I don’t know what to eat *something terrible is going to happen (and I’ll break my diet, or binge) *none of this matters anyway–I can’t win, I can’t be happy, I may as well enjoy food  

What I know now is that anyone can end the fight, struggle, argument or stress involved with eating, food, or body….It’s your birthright to live peacefully with the experience and joy of eating.  

Eating was not created to hurt. We can take the suffering we've experienced, and turn it all around.

If you don’t feel peaceful with eating, then likely somewhere in your life, like me you began to believe painful thoughts about thinness, fatness, weight, attractiveness, joy, love, foods, connection and eating.  

There is a way to enter into the experience of peaceful eating, permanently.  

How do I know?  

Because it happened for me.  

I was a binge-eater, bulimic for a decade (binge-eating and vomiting or over-exercising), borderline-anorexic for several years, and constantly tortured by violent thoughts about food, weight, and eating. I weighed too much, then too little, yo-yo’d up and down, and hated my body. I felt nervous around large quantities of food. I said things like “I can’t keep x in my house!!” because I’d think about it obsessively until I ate it.  

But it’s over now.  

Food can be wherever it is, including covering a huge buffet table in my presence, and it doesn’t scare me or create anger or make me say things like “careful! stay in control!”  

That kind of unrest can be over for you, too.  

I used to isolate, stay home, avoid gatherings with large amounts of food, go to gatherings with food just to eat it instead of pay any attention to people. I felt lost, lonely, terrified and thought I was going crazy.  

I spent hundreds of dollars on binge food. I drove into fast-food restaurants for meals one after the other trying to act “normal” to the employee working behind the counter instead of desperate and almost in tears.  

I went to Overeaters Anonymous, weight watchers, therapy, in-patient treatment for eating disorders at Porter Memorial Hospital in Denver, completed Living Binge Free program, People House, more therapy, Beyond Dieting program, Course in Miracles, Alcoholics Anonymous, est, Context Trainings and group therapy.  

All of these helped a little, my eating slowed in its excessiveness, but nothing cured my compulsive thinking.  

And then, between a very powerful group therapy program and learning The Work of Byron Katie, I found a lightness and freedom from eating wars I always dreamed of but never thought possible.  

This approach to Eating Peace gathers three vital and important principles together, and lives out of them:  

1) Eating (or any activity and consuming) is a part of the flow of in and out, up and down, of life….and everyone can live eating peacefully with that flow, like the tides going in and out…..everyone. Without any upsetting fluctuation in weight. 

2) You are not a special case that can’t be cured, no matter how long you’ve been suffering with this problem.

3) Eating, food, and body image has grown to have more importance in your world than it should because of your perceptions and unconscious, limiting, very stressed mental activity. You can find out what you need instead of food or eating. You’ll learn what you need to say “no” to in your life, and most importantly, you’ll question the stressful lies you’ve been believing that drive off-balance eating. 

You don’t have to figure out all your feelings, resolve dilemmas, or feel good all the time. (You won’t). But you can stop overeating or eating or starving obsessively or thinking about food or your weight….and bring your focus to where else you don’t feel free, and question your mind.  

The Eating Peace Basics 101 8-week course cover 8 key topics and stories necessary to address in order to end the insanity of eating out of balance. While we're not aiming for a "cure" to all eating woes in 8 weeks, you will be offered the basics for a new foundation of peace instead of suffering with food. You'll know where to take your practice when the course is over, and how to continue on your journey to freedom.

We work in the realm of mindfulness, feelings, questioning our old beliefs, and living in freedom–we address our eating obsessions at the root level.  

You do not have to be controlled, or to follow, the directives of your unquestioned thoughts. You can end the cycle of insanity. Your life includes the possibility of joyful, balanced eating.  

I’m living proof. So are other people who have done this work.  

No control or rigid plans are necessary. (Although you will learn how to review, refine and clarify your own eating and continue to automatically stick with peace).  

Eating Peace Basics 101 Online: A Live Zoom Course with a different topic each week for 8 weeks.

Next Course: Wednesdays 9:00am-10:30am Pacific Time June 24-August 12, 2020

Brief outline of the program:

  • Session One: How To Dissolve Our Stories. A Few of The Most Common and Troubling Tales We’re Thinking Are True.
  • Session Two: Eating Our Feelings. The Key To Stopping.
  • Session Three: To Plan or Not To Plan. Chaos vs Structure and Finding Our Way With The Actual Food.
  • Session Four: Empty, Bored, Hungry. When The Moment Isn’t Enough.
  • Session Five: Fear, Trauma, Pleasure. When The Moment Is Too Much.
  • Session Six: Relationships and Family of Origin. Parenting, Eating Patterns and Questioning The Beliefs We Adopted.
  • Session Seven: Healing Body Image Angst. When Body Image Is Who You Are, it Hurts.
  • Session Eight: The Spiritual Journey of Eating. Understanding How Suffering With Eating Leads To En-lighten-ment If You Let It. 


How much time will this take?

The live sessions are 90 minutes and all of the sessions will be recorded. Each week there will also be one video or webinar (20 mins or less) that describes the core story we're questioning that week, and the principles supporting eating peace I personally found I needed along the way.

Elective: you can choose to pair with one person in the program to trade facilitation in The Work weekly on the story we're questioning that week and your identified thoughts about it (you'll need about one hour for this). We will switch partners half way through the course.

You may also have a daily piece of homework that will require 5-15 minutes of your time.

If I've been a member of Eating Peace Experience or the Eating Peace Immersion Retreat, will this cover the same material?

Some of this material will surely be familiar, but this is a new simpler format offered live, and created to bring something basic to those of us still struggling and wanting support in finding our freedom from eating issues. You'll get to engage with a group again which is immensely connective and supportive. For everyone who has taken an immersion program already and wants to step into a more active practice again for the course, please write grace@workwithgrace.com for a special coupon for $100 off if you want to join us here.

I can't afford the tuition. Is there any way I can still join?

Please write to Grace to explain your circumstance. There are no full scholarships for this live program but we are open to reading your circumstances and needs in critical times.

More complete Outline of the Basic Program:

Session One: Dissolving Our Stories. What it means to inquire into our thoughts, and the profound benefits of doing it. Included is HOW to get started in identifying your beliefs (and some common ones) and taking them through the process so you understand the inner chatter of the mind--the fearful, sometimes terrorized, mind.

Session Two: Eating Our Feelings. We've all heard of emotional eating. The fact is, food is soothing, pleasurable, distracting, and magnetizing. It works to calm an emotional disruption (temporarily) like boredom, anxiety, memories of trauma, rejection, sadness, grief. It is grounding. It brings energy. However...feeling the full feelings instead of distracting is what we all truly, genuinely want. We're simply afraid. You'll learn how to be interested (or just willing) to be with your feelings.

Session Three: To Plan or Not To Plan. In this session we will address the ancient question of creating a plan that works specifically for you. I have planned, I have weighed-and-measured, and I have learned to follow an internal system I was built and born with (you have it, too) that tells you when and what to eat. You may need to give yourself some structure while you uncover your inner tool--the regulator that says "hungry" and "full". You will have a way to work with how to be with food today that serves you instead of controls you and supports you in finding balance where you are right now.

Session Four: Empty, Bored, Hungry. We begin to truly and honestly study the primary triggers for compulsive and obsessive eating. One of the first is restlessness, boredom, malaise. We're seeking entertainment, something's missing. We feel hungry for something and not sure what. Dropping deeper with this trigger, we can understand how to work with emptiness and boredom/missing something much more clearly...without eating.

Session Five: Fear, Trauma, Pleasure. Most people are aware that traumatic experiences, especially in childhood, can bring a sense of fear when not resolved. Fear by its very nature turns the human psyche (when not questioned and understood) towards escape, avoidance, management. We try to simply find solid ground (survival). Many of us also have shame around pleasure and what we believe. You don't have to face all your fears, this work is about being with fear, and opening up to doing it without eating. It's not as hard as you think.

Session Six: Relationships and Family of Origin. The experience of the dinner table in our family has striking consequences on our relationship with eating. We'll look at mother, father, sister, brother and name the family stories by identifying what we saw, learned and adopted--innocently--from our family of origin. To become aware of this, and then inquire, can change our perspective and give us new possibilities for how we feel about eating.

Session Seven: Healing Body Image Angst. Body image criticism is enormously stressful AND we judge our concerns about body image, weight and imperfection as superficial and wrong to have in the first place. In this work, we get to see what we think and believe onto images, and why we've felt it's so critical to appear a certain way. As we see what's true, we can relax with the body we have. The good news is, when we relax, our body naturally falls into a normal, balanced weight.

Session Eight: The Spiritual Journey of Eating. Eating sometimes seems mundane, like something shouldn't have to care about. But consumption and wanting and desire and satisfaction are all symbolized and experienced directly in eating, and in all of life. To find peace with these experiences of being human, and having a body, is the greatest spiritual journey we can have, even if we've never had trouble with off-balance eating. We'll get to look at how we perceive the future, and find peace in the imagination.

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"“This class has been huge for me since I was so new to Byron Katie's Work. My sense of peace around food is wonderful and I thank you deeply for helping me find it.”


"Thank you so very much for your help in the wonderful program you gave. You gave me much to think about, and I can feel a sense of peace that I can’t remember the last time I felt. Thank you, thank you.” 




“The slides, the presentation, the fact that I could watch whenever I was able made it possible for me to participate from Australia. When I questioned ”I need to eat” one day at night, I suddenly remembered The Work. I turned it around “I don’t need to eat.” I couldn’t believe it worked. I didn’t eat, for the first time in years.




“I had an amazing night. Woke up around 2.30 and worked ‘I need to control my eating’. I clearly saw that fears are what drive the eating. It feels like I cracked the code! So simple. I've done some work on my eating but not at this depth! Thank you so much."

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