A retreat for touching the mysterious way the mind works, and questioning our struggles. Join Grace Bell for a powerful time in self-inquiry with The Work of Byron Katie.

Four questions. Your answers.

OCTOBER 25-30, 2023

Saint Edwards Bastyr University Campus, WA

A beautiful seminary built in 1958 offering dorm style rooms, or full-service lodging, surrounded by old growth forest only 25 mins northeast of downtown Seattle. Retreat registration includes tuition and some meals. You'll choose your own lodging and book that directly with the venue.

Curious about lodging? Scroll to here.

Book a 15 min Call to meet Grace and ask your questions

Why attend clarity retreat?

The primary task of a good transformational retreat, is not to answer your questions, but to question your answers

The time known as All Hallows Eve or Hallowe'en in mystic Christian tradition is the day before All Saints Day, when "saints" are honored--the people who have attained heaven.

The evening before this day is the evening before holiness is attained, the night before this holy day.

But long before this beautiful story, there was Samhain in a very ancient Celtic tradition connected to the land. October 31st was New Year's eve. The beginning of a brand new year, with the harvest in, and the veil between the living and the dead was especially thin. Time to go within, with stores for winter handled, and enter the Great Mystery. This is a time when the spirits visit, we make contact with the past, with what has been....and allow it to show us what we need to learn.

Perhaps this is each and every one of us, over and over again. We experience not-holy-yet, then holy. Then not-holy again, then holy. We struggle, our thinking comes, our thinking goes. Our thinking loves us so much, it is ever at our service.

With The Work, we see through this illusion of thought--how we're seeing ourselves, and our lives--and celebrating the illusion with joy and playfulness. We get to play in our "innermost" disguises, our disappointments, hurts, furies, rages. Being human is welcome on retreat. Being human becomes most holy and trustworthy, when we question the meaning-making machine called "our thoughts".

Who are we, without our stories? What's that like? Together we get to explore this wonderful experience of being human, thinking, feeling....and play in the mystery. Just like we do as children putting on costumes.

Nothing like a gathering of like-minded people to share in this powerful understanding, together.

What an amazing gift to step outside of daily life, connect with others, and deeply listen to our inner conversation with reality. Situations, relationships, behaviors come into focus and clarity is found.

This retreat is right for you, if:

  • You are a beginner to The Work and a beginner to questioning your stressful beliefs. You may be acquainted with the method called The Work of Byron Katie and self-inquiry around what you think, but have not actually practiced it yet or repeated the process enough times to receive the internal benefit. You're aware the way you see something troubling can make all the difference in the world....but you'd like to experience this fully, and understand the process from the neck down.
  • You're familiar, even well-practiced in The Work, and you're aware every time you join in this practice with others, you learn, grow and expand your ability for insight, love, empowerment, kindness. You're ready for a new step in your awareness and joy (even awe) for being human.
  • You're a service provider, coach, therapist, parent or healer who supports others, and you know you're capable of offering facilitation that changes lives, rather than see people remain embedded in their difficult stories. You'd like to refine your capacity to work with anyone, especially allowing your own well of unconditional wisdom to be present to others. You know one of the best ways you can bring presence to others, is to feel free within.
  • You'd like nutritional support and ease. You seek change around a particular habit of thinking, a way of being, a compulsive behavior that's confusing, painful, and appears to extend your suffering. You have maybe even "tried everything" to stop the insanity. The Work helps us see the way the mind works, to find freedom from getting caught in the struggle and to finally leave it all alone. Whether you've suffered from binge-eating or obsessive thinking about food and body weight, or, you're reaching for screens, alcohol, buying, trauma history, games, over-working, anxiety, wakefulness, depression....this retreat gives us a dopamine-detox, and nourishing meals to support us. The Work aligns beautifully with members of 12 Step Programs and can enhance your experience of recovery.
  • You have a very painful situation or relationship that isn't going as you truly desire. You're frightened of the future, or very upset and disappointed about the way it went in the past. You may even have lost faith in life, or lost trust. This work helps those of us suffering from a dilemma or a problem to see the meaning we've gotten stuck in, and discover new ways of seeing that bring possibility, and peace, even if we can't change what happened.
  • You're drawn to spend quality time in a small group, devoting yourself to recognizing the way through and beyond personal dilemmas. You've wanted to attend other in-depth programs (The School for The Work, 10 day Silent Meditation Retreats, Cleanse Retreats, Thought-Leaders' immersion programs) but they are 5x the price or more or scheduled at times you can't attend. You'd like to discover your own answers.
  • You're seeking a reset button in your life on all the tasks, duties, work, obligations, calendar events, and you're ready for a clean-up. You want to unhook from the usual stream of technology, to disconnect from the pace of "incoming" doing, ingesting, busy-ing.
  • You're deeply interested in the great existential questions of human life: Why am I here? Who am I? What does it all mean? What is going on? You're a student of life, but you know entering a monastery or becoming a priest or leaving everything behind isn't your path (at least not now). Still, you want to incorporate faith, love, spirituality, religion (for members of a faith community) more fully into your daily life, your daily activities, your ability to serve and to be in love with the world.

Welcome. This retreat is for you.

“I did The Work, because I was in a hurry.” ~ Byron Katie

By the end of our retreat together, you will....


You'll look at what you consider to be "problems" (tiny or large) and listen to what your mind says about them, without interruption, without pushing them away.


To meet our thoughts about ourselves, what we're most ashamed of, terrified of, and what we feel is unforgivable....is life-changing.


You'll get to see what your worst fears are about this temporary body, your temporary life, and open to who you are beyond body and self identity


You'll question loss, absence, what you believe should be present that is not (money, a person, the way it used to be). You'll question suffering about impermanence.


Understand what you can change and what you can't in any situation, with any person, with love, acceptance and even joyful excitement.


Through hearing others' experience, facilitating others and receiving facilitation, you will connect in the most authentic way possible.

But above all else...

RETREAT will immerse you strongly in the power of The Work of Byron Katie, so you can relax into the freedom of being a happy human, trust and do what works for you in your unique and beautiful life, find like-minded friends as co-facilitators on the journey, and genuinely welcome what is.

It's not just a lofty dream only a select few are capable of falling into, this loving-what-is way of seeing the world. It is who and what you truly are, what we all are. We recognize this when we don't believe our thoughts.

Enrolling reserves your spot.


"I had heard great things about Grace and I was not disappointed. Her way was gentle, and she always had a great reminder/ suggestion/new perspective that really landed for me."

"I feel extremely grateful for this experience. Now I have quirky new ways of looking at things, such as: 'Everything you need to have a wonderful life will come to you'. More slowing down and letting myself be. This retreat has helped me to open my heart to my own life."

"The retreat met my expectations. It's helpful to witness others sharing their stressful thinking and see them turn it around...Makes me feel connected to the human race."


After graduating with her Master's Degree in 1997 in Applied Behavioral Science, Grace began working as a Certified Counselor in Washington State in 2003.

After her first School for The Work with Byron Katie in 2005, she changed her entire approach to mental health treatment to focus on the peace and solutions already existing within each of us when we question what we're thinking and believing.

She saw a way of life in practicing self-inquiry that brought loving kindness and empowered acceptance to any troubling situation. She witnessed freedom blossoming in others who had suffered from compulsive behaviors, repetitive fears and angst in relationships. Her private practice built and expanded every year and has been thriving ever since. Gathering in groups is one of her favorite ways of diving into The Work.

"We're all walking each other home". ~ Ram Dass


Practicing self-inquiry changes lives

The total due is $990 and include several meals, supplies, tuition.

You will book your lodging separately (two fabulous choices)


Stories from Work With Grace participants


"I think Grace has an amazing, loving heart and I can feel how much she loves people and makes it really safe. It’s not clinical, Grace makes me feel so safe and cared for. From safety, I've found courage and freedom to be."


"This is the best modality I could think of to practice The Work. Small group. I felt like it was on the fast track. I quit smoking pot on the last retreat. This was perfect access for me, not being able to go to the School for the Work."


"The Work in person sticks with me. Away from families, jobs, stressors, you can really be there, unlike at home when you have everything around you. Taking this time has been an oasis."


"It feels like my soul was caged, and now the jail door is wide open. I can fly. I can face problems, I can face fears and anger. It is amazing!"

What will meals be like, what's our daily schedule, what's the curriculum....and will there be free time?




Opening Night

Wednesday, October 25th. Arrive any time after 5:30pm to our gathering classroom. (Check-in for your lodging is dependent on your venue, and you are welcome to arrange earlier check-in or even come a day early or stay a day later if you prefer)

Dinner 6pm. We'll share our first dinner at our meeting space classroom together. Around 7:30pm we'll gather in our circle to start at the very beginning: welcoming internally our troubles, concerns, frustrations and stressful situations causing pain



Retreat in The Work is new and unique every time. The individuals present, the environment, the circumstances, the weather (both inside and outside), the greater world events all organically contribute to a living, creative process.

The benefits of finding your way back home into your own kind, loving, magnificent heart is beyond words. When we question our perceptions of what has happened in our lives, what we've interpreted as true, and what we imagine or predict about the future, our creativity, energy and joy can flow in the Don't Know Mind.

No matter what you've gone through, no matter how much you've suffered, it is possible to find peace and clarity in the present moment.

We will dive into the following topics so you can see what you think and believe, and inquire:

  • wants, desires, hopes, longings
  • unwanted behavior, habits, compulsions
  • fear, anxiety, worry, over-thinking
  • body: appearance, weight, health, illness, pain, aging
  • money, success, abundance, scarcity
  • relationships, gender, attraction, communicating
  • friendship, betrayal, family of origin



Retreat offers the practice of detaching from patterns of habit, including the way we eat and take in the world.

At least two dinners are included in the booking fee, along with light breakfast foods, tea service and snacks during the day. On campus is a daily lunch with vegan option for only $10 in the Bastyr University Dining Hall.

Bring some extra spending money for groceries or meals offsite. You'll have 3 dinners that are your choice on your own, and for one of these, we may all go to the local restaurant at The Lodge to eat together as a group. We also may enjoy gathering some of our own easy and favorite foods and still eat together. We'll basically have flexibility for Thurs/Fri/Saturday dinners.


Grace will share exercises that have helped her clearly identify what the feelings showing up in her experience have to say, and what is beyond our psychology when we inquire. These exercises came from journaling, asking some common questions posed in The Work, and noticing the ever-present return to home. They are offered with the awareness that everyone has within what is needed for their own healing, their own amazing life.


Closing Morning

Monday, October 30th. Please plan on staying all the way until Noon on our last morning together. The final closing is always a powerful and profound way to move into your next chapter, and know what and how to navigate as you return to your daily life.

It can be disruptive when people need to leave early to catch flights. Relax and enjoy the final morning with us. We suggest not booking at flight until 3pm at the very earliest, so you have time to get to the airport without rushing.

Your venues will have their own check-out time, based on where you are staying. You are welcome to bring luggage to our classroom or store it a the Bastyr front office, or to ask for a late check-out with your hotel.


Question your suffering, change your world


Gathering together on this retreat pushes the reset button physically, emotionally, spiritually. The benefits are transformational.


Awareness when we're identified

We're listening to what our thoughts are saying about life, ourselves, what's good, what's bad, and we're invited to see....it's only our thoughts.


Noticing how what we want appears to be missing, but it's not hopeless

When we let our thoughts freely express what we want, dream of, long for, or need....we've got a keyhole to a different way of seeing. One that's satisfied with what is, and enjoying the journey of whatever comes next, ready for change without forcing it to happen, knowing we can find joy in any situation. Amazing.


Watching our minds give advice: to others, to life, to ourselves and relaxing anyway

When we notice what our advice is, what we've decided is right or wrong, what should or shouldn't be happening, we can inquire and find our experience of freedom--no matter what's happened.


Dropping endless resistance what has been and what might happen later

As we question our thinking in the presence of others, we make friends with the past--we notice it's over, we learn from what happened. We're able to see the profound presence existing within us, even if we have no answers. The future is unknown, and what a gift to feel "willing" to allow it to unfold without our demands


Dissolving our thoughts as "the truth" and watching our patterns and behaviors change all on their own

When we see the way our minds get captivated by stories and conditions, we're able to see how those stories naturally change. We can tap into what we really are: unconditional love, freedom, peace, resilience, balance in motion


There are two lodging options. Choose and book your lodging independently. Each venue requires participants to contact them directly.


Dorm rooms in the original Bastyr campus Seminary built in 1958. Very comfortable beds, linens, and towels provided.

Call Pam Vaughn: Department of University Events and Guest Services 425-602-3061 pvaughn@bastyr.edu

Pam will answer your questions and book your room.


The Lodge

A beautiful full service hotel at St Edwards State Park 0.4 mile walk from our gathering room through the woods. They provide a special discounted rate for our retreat participants.

Book your room at a discounted retreat rate at The Lodge, or call 425-470-6500:

Use this link to book ONLINE.

Special Rate starting at $229/night (normally starting at $305). Weekend nights are a little higher, but also discounted at the link above.

Six days and five nights spent in the depths of inquiry in a safe container with other people, having the structure to focus only on the beliefs that have caused personal pain and suffering (rather than all the daily tasks), and being provided with clear exercises that support truly seeing where things go sideways...

....all of these provide for us an avenue into deepening our love for ourselves, others and the world.

The only way I found that gave me the technology to shift my suffering from agony to a peaceful acceptance, was exploring my own answers to the four questions and finding turnarounds.

Suffering from self-sabotaging behaviors? Furious or in despair because of what someone else has done? Terrified of the future under certain conditions? Traumatized because of the past, a diagnosis, a disappointment? Wanting to understand what all the fuss is all about around questioning our stories and seeing thought for what it really is?

Retreat is perfect for all this.

Because your presence is the reason The Work works. There is no guru, no teacher to consult, no philosophy to memorize, no special psychology or feelings to "get", no religion, no specific step-by-step, no need to seek the entire world for freedom. Retreat simply offers the space and silence to be aware of what we're thinking, and to question it.

"Don't go into hell without these four questions. And if you invite these questions into your life, it becomes impossible to go into hell without them. The questions aren't here to wake you up; it's your answers to the questions that will wake you up. The questions are the invitation. But only you can answer them. And it does take courage."

~ Byron Katie in Loving What Is

Even if you feel you've barely got the courage to come sit with other (possible strangers) and answer these questions, all are welcome to this circle. It is possible for any one of us to recognize who we really are, with or without our stories. Love is revealed when we question our interpretations of what is, our perspective. Love is revealed when we see it's safe to stop arguing with reality, with what happened, with who we are. Love blossoms like summer flowers, in just the right time--not too fast or too slow--and life keeps getting better and better.

At least is sure has for me. I'm so happy I bumped into this work. It's changed my entire life.

We have our one precious life. There is a seat at this table for you.

Enlightenment is available to us, one question, one answer, at a time. Nothing more required.

All my best,


Question Your Suffering, Make Peace With Your Life

October 2023 Retreat